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If I Do One Thing Right

If I Do One Thing Right
Posted on September 19, 2014
Me and My Man.
Me and My Man.

Over the span of my life I have seen so many marriages fall apart. Mental illness, death, disease, finances, abuse, and unfaithfulness are just some of the causes for the demise of marriages. Let’s face it. Marriage is tough, and when hard times come, marriage gets even tougher.

Being unfaithful to my spouse has always been one of my biggest fears. I told God after I got married that if He knew I was going to be unfaithful to my husband then I would rather be run over by a train and killed first. I meant this statement. How horrible it would be to hurt someone you love in this way. You hurt them, you hurt yourself, your friends, their friends, and both of your families.

I remember right after I got married I was listening to a sermon in which the speaker said, “Don’t ever think that you aren’t capable of committing adultery.” He went on to say that everyone is capable of falling into this particular trap. This was scary to hear.

In our pre marital counseling the preacher told us about something that he called the warm fuzzies. He said that sometimes he would get the warm fuzzies for women other than his wife. He said that this was normal. He told us that he always told his wife and that he would then keep his distance from that other person as much as possible. There is great wisdom in his advice.

The fact is, we are human beings and we live in a world with very attractive, kind, caring, and extremely smart individuals. If you get out enough, chances are you will eventually run into some who gives you the warm fuzzies. This does not mean however that you should do anything about it. Just stay away from that person and remind yourself of all the wonderful qualities that your spouse has and how much they too give you the warm fuzzies.

I’m sure you want to know if I have ever had the warm fuzzies for someone since I’ve been married. The answer to that question is yes I have. It is scary. I always tell my husband when this happens and we talk about it. I apologize, and then I try to maintain my distance from temptation. I intentionally try not to dwell on the warm fuzzies. The imagining can become damaging to your marriage. It can be the beginning of a slippery slope. One slope that you do not want to slide down I assure you.

I have never spoken to a single person who has cheated on their spouse who feels good about it, or who doesn’t regret it. You will always regret it and it will always destroy your life. So keep your heart guarded and keep honest lines of communication open with your spouse at all times.

And if you have cheated on your spouse just remember that there is grace and forgiveness for you. Hopefully you and your spouse can be reconciled and your marriage can be restored. Remember we all fail and make mistakes. Get back up and try again. Forgive yourself.

So if I do one thing right in this life, I want it to be that I remained faithful to my husband until death do us part. I want to grow old with him and I always want to be faithful to him. I don’t want to take him for granted or compare him to someone else. He is special and he is the one I chose.

With all my heart,

Bridgette

Caught in a Trap

Caught in a Trap
Posted on August 29, 2014
Bridgette PlankingRecently I spent an amazing week in San Antonio with my sister and her husband. My husband and I stayed in one of her guest bedrooms. It was quaint and beautiful and was reminiscent of many B&B’s that we have stayed in over the years.

In our room, we were surrounded by many unique antiques. One was a mirror that stood tauntingly in the corner. When I would disrobe in the evenings to put on my pajamas, I would observe my thighs and butt in the old looking glass.

I don’t know about you guys, but have you noticed that in certain mirrors you look either fatter or slimmer in them than you do in your own mirror at home? Or have you noticed that your cellulite appears to be less visible or more visible? In fact, there are mirrors on this here planet that show that I have no cellulite at all. Dressing room mirrors are the worst since they are usually lit with the harshest of lightening. Getting naked in a department store dressing room is a florescent nightmare.

I like my mirror at home. I think it is honest. It doesn’t show me a flawless picture of myself, but a realistic one. However, the mocking mirror at my sister’s house was showing me a picture of myself that I did not appreciate. It was at this moment that I realized that I am caught in a trap.

I think about my body and how to improve it on a daily basis. I am sure I think about it way too much. I desperately want to be balanced and not even care about what the mirror shows me. But alas I do. I struggle to find the balance between being healthy and looking good. This war in my mind feels like bondage to me. Why do I find myself constantly focused on my appearance? Dear Reader, It’s not like you are ever going to see me naked!

You know who I secretly envy? The woman at the pool or the beach who does not have a beautiful body at all, but she doesn’t care. You can tell by the way she walks and the way she just lets it all hang out. I wish I could be like that. Instead, I am caught in a trap. Maybe over time, I will be able to get out. I want to be free.

With all my heart,

Bridgette

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Monday Challenge

Monday Challenge
Posted on July 21, 2014
Bridgette with hands in hairHappy Monday everyone. I hope you are all well and encouraged for what the day will bring. Today, I am going to workout with my girlfriends, then I am going to take my boys to the Denver Botanic Gardens. There is an exhibit there by Dave Chihuly that is supposed to be beautiful. It’s going to be hot, but I don’t mind. My daughter is away at summer camp, so I thought I’d have a special week with my guys.

My workout will about 24 minutes long this morning, very high intensity. It will be short, sweaty, and sweet. I love sweating. My personal fitness goal for this week is to cut back on my sugar consumption. This means that I will cut back on breads, grains, processed foods of any kind, potatoes, beer and wine, and of course goodies. I will focus on eating healthy proteins, fruits and veggies.

Remember fruit and vegetables give us all the glucose we need for energy. Protein is also an energy source and many people don’t realize that. We have been trained to think of carbs as our primary energy source. Our bodies burn glucose first, fat second, and protein third.

Here is the Monday challenge for you: Pick one or two items in your daily intake and replace them with something healthier like a piece of fruit or just take them out all together. I’m not asking you to take out all carbs, just one or two. Slow change is easier to do than drastic change.

This will not only help you lose weight, but it will also help your body function in a healthier way. Remember excess sugar is not helpful to our bodies at all. I don’t care if it’s agave, honey, maple syrup, white sugar, organic sugar, molasses or whatever. All sugar is bad for you. Maple syrup, honey, and molasses are the only sugars that have minimal health benefits. Sugar is sugar period. Don’t be fooled.

It also doesn’t matter if your bread is white, whole wheat, or gluten free, it all converts to sugar once it enters the body. Bread is simply sugar in a different form. So as you can see, sugar overload can happen quickly. This is something we all need to be aware of and then make our food choices wisely. Sugar reduction is not a bad thing, it just feels hard to do.

If you decide to take the challenge, you won’t be alone, as I will be taking the challenge myself. Here is my plan: Smoothie for breakfast-vega one protein powder, 1/2 banana, unsweetened almond milk, chia seeds, coconut oil, and flax seed. Lunch-salad with protein (I am ordering this at the Botanic Gardens) and Dinner-baked turkey with guacamole and kale salad. You have my word, I will not cheat today. Good luck on your own personal journey.

With all my heart,

Bridgette

Is Sugar Your Master?

Is Sugar Your Master?
Posted on July 16, 2014
We may frequently look down on the alcohoIic, the smoker, or the drug addict, but the rest of us have a much more acceptable addiction. In fact, it is one that is widely accepted. We worship and admire and dream of food. I do it all the time. I consume food in my thoughts, with my eyes, and eventually with my mouth. Since there are literally thousands of pictures of food posted on websites like pinterest and on personal blogs, there is never a shortage of new material for me to consume. There is even a new term for this purveyance of food. It is called food porn.

Food addiction and more specifically sugar addiction is running rampant not only in our society, but also in myself and in my children. I may not be the first one to go for the cookie jar, but I am the first one to go for the potato chip bag.

So even though I don’t need to lose weight, I do need to lose my addiction to sugar. But why does it feel so impossible not to eat sweets and carbs? It feels this way because our bodies literally become addicted to the sugar. The sugar changes our brain chemistry and therefore we are compelled to eat more and more. Sadly, we remain hungry. And to make it even worse, the more sugar you ingest in all of its various forms, the more unhealthy your body becomes. Enter disease.

This may seem a little melodramatic I admit. But watching a loved one die from obesity or from obesity related diseases is no picnic. My father died recently from all food related illnesses. He wasn’t obese, but his body had become a toxic playground. He would’ve lived much longer if he would’ve just changed his diet. But he simply didn’t want to, desire to, or believe he needed to. Such is life. What good are his Hostess Ding Dongs and his Coca-Cola to him now? They were simply his escorts to the grave.

Therefore, take a look at your sugar consumption. Reduce your intake of the white and deadly. I am limiting my intake of sugar because I no longer want it to be my master. Is sugar your master? Think about it.

With all my heart,

Bridgette

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